Yes, misunderstand yourself.
The situation that you realize that what you chase for, is not what you really want.
ya, you thought you want it, but actually you are not.
This miserable ending is hurtful.
You are like, put in all your effort and heart, chase for the stars, but at the end you realize that you actually afraid of the dark and the sun is what you want more.
Right? Is the situation sounds familiar?
It is kinda like the love-in-first-sight.
The thing looks fancy and attractive for the first time you saw it.
You just can't take it out from your mind, you get insomnia for thinking about it the whole night.
Even at the day time, you still thinking about it.
You just chase the thing blindly.
You don't even understand what is it that attracting you.
What is so special about it.
What is it mean to you.
What is the value to you.
What is it that make you love it. Or maybe, you just like it but not really love it.
Do you understand the difference between like and love?
Make it simple, "you like the guy" and "you love the guy".
Like, it might just you have a positive feeling towards him. He just didn't annoyed you. You both have topics to chat with each other.
Love, it is way more serious. You want to take care of him. Anything you will rank him as priority.
You want him to be by your side. You want to protect him. When you planning your future, he is included because you want him not only for now but forever.
See the differences?
Yes, from the "Like" stage, you might have chance to proceed to the next "Love" stage.
However, before you love him, do you understand him well enough?
His like and dislike?
Character?
Dream and aim of life?
Favorite?
Thought?
His everything... At least 95%? or 90%?
I mean, how can you fall in love to someone, before you even knowing him well.
You might just misunderstand that you love him because of him hot looking, perhaps?
Or just because you both have so many common topics to chat non-stop.
He is being gentleman to you?
He is popular guy in your college? So you just follow the trend...
Don't be silly.
If this misunderstanding of like and love happens in primary school or secondary school....
Yup I can assume that you are still immature, and that is puppy love.
Create sweet and funny memories to store in your brain and make it become a joke in the future.
But in college or university? N-O-, no!
You are not baby anymore!
You should have the ability to differentiate what you really want!
Don't be stupid until you chase the guy for 3 years and finally, YEAH! happy ending!
But at the end, you just have an OS like: Oh fuck up! He is not my Mr. Right. Shit!
So then you say never mind, forget about all the hard work you done for 3 years to get his attention, get to be friend, you confess, and couple up, but how to break up with him?!
What should I say it? How should I say it? Where should I say it?
No I won't give you any comment or suggestion.
I will buy popcorn and drinks, sit aside, and watch my movie.
3D effect without the glasses needed and perfect sound system.
Hey don't blame me ya, don't forget that you are the director of this horror and miserable movie.
I just want to say that, don't be the stupid one to waste all your effort and chase for what you not needed or wanted.
Take you steps after you make sure you chase for what you should chase for.
Think seriously before you make your move.
What is meant to be yours will be yours. What is not, then even you get it, it won't stay.
